Sunday, 9 September 2007

WORTH READING.... To aLL MaRRieD CouPLe & CoUpLe To Be

DON SKIP, WORTH READING!!!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and
said I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I
observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what
I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem
to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her
question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a
satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I
didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that
she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to
see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which
had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep
very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke
up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I
turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want
anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She
requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life
as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's
time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.

Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and
thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face
the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact
since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her
out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us,
daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain.
From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten
meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell
our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.

I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I
drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my
chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't
looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young
any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our
marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done
to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy
returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On
the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing
again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the
month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have
grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the
reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried
so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the
moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father
carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife
gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face
away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to
the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her
body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to
office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was
afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew
opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce
anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce.
My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
"I'll carry you out every morning until deaths do us apart"

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do
those little things for each other that build intimacy
. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just
might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are

19 comments:

  1. thanks dear for sharing..yelahkan..pasangan sepatutnye x take for granted...baik suami atau isteri...apa org kata....MESTI LOVING EACH OTHER..

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  2. Wow... this short story reminds me of one of the Malaysian drama I watched last year - "Jatuh Cinta Sekali Lagi". It projected the same meaning as well.

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  3. sob sob.. so sedih.. tap kan.. kalo aku.. hb aku tak bleh angkat gue lah... aku nie giant.. piggy back bole.. itu pun brape seconds jerr.. hahhaa.. kate kusemangat... lol..

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  4. ohhhhh...tis is so sweet. at times we couples do need to remember small2 details in our lives together.

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  5. kak..tears welled up in my eyes & they rolled down eventually..

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  6. small details r d most important. i agree 110%.

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  7. Oh yessss, i like that drama so so much!!!! I watched twice, once via TV3 and once @ Suria.... I tink by using that tactic, it does help A LOT!!! Kan future cousin? Hihihi....

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  8. Alamak, nak pass kan tissue skali tissue pun abis lah sebab air liur Adly asyik meleleh.... ihikkk *wiNk*

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  9. A'ah, sama ngan aku nyah. Ari tu aku chang blakang azmi sebab we all playing game at home. The moment i jumped behind him, dia terus lost balance.... then he screamed, alamak bini gua dah jadi BOYAK... hahahahhaha

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  10. Yessss, small details tends to be forgotten..... i remember Azmi ever cut my toe nails for me masa pregnant sebab aku dah tak sampai. It may be so remeh but it meant a lot for me :) And not to forget, dia suka tarik rambut rosak aku yang dia kata, "rambut rosak konon, tu uban... awak dah tua" - ada ke patut, hihihihhi

    Wah i can imagine when we both dah old, aku dah tak payah risau sebab my hubby expert carik uban, LOL!!!!!!

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  11. Such as lap kan air liur meleleh masa tido also important tau.... ahaks!!!!!

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  12. Can recaLL back when i saw Bro carik kan kao nye uBan dpn Padang Layang²...
    Very Lurbing² gitu...
    i Dun tink smuer partner blh buat nie smuer..eventou remeh temeh...ahaksz


    P/S:AjiMee...Leh carik kan me nye rambut rosak tak?? hehehe

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  13. Auuwwww.... confirm kita berdua suka carik publisiti murah, ahaks!!! Kat padang layang2 pongsss sempat carik uban kan? LOL....

    Psssttt, aJiMee..... dia dah sound nak jadik lurbing2 macam me & Azmi D.C.... but i'm sure u both have ur own "seCreTs" mah..... kalau tak, takkan nak kawin cepat2, oooopppsss!!!!

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  14. This is my 2nd time reading this article... I like this part ----> "I'll carry you out every morning until deaths do us apart"... So bery the touching... Ouch...!

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  15. it is like chicken soup for the couple's soul.very nice.

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  16. makes us learn to appreciate the finer things in life. never take things for granted

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