RahSia PerKahWiNaN....

I am someone who is very sensitif about marriages... especially when i heard news about those couple who can't make it :( which then i will ask myself... "Wat happen?".... "Wat caused it to happen when they got married based on LOVE?"

I was reading  today's Berita Minggu and came across an interesting article about "Marriage of a Celebrity in Malaysia, Rosyam Noor..."

I would like to share some of the points that Rosyam mentioned which both me & hubby have been following thruout our 7 years marriage and some new ones which we will preserve as a guideline in future... sorry Channel 5 guys, i cannot translate in English lah, cos it sounds better in MeLaYu Channel SuRiA....

1.   "Jangan mengadu kepada orang ketiga apabila timbul masalah rumahtangga, ia bukan menjernihkan keadaan, malah megeruhkan suasana...."
My advice is, apa saja masalah perlu dihuraikan bersama oleh suami isteri, best in in THE ROOM... once u're out of the room, u hafta be an actor/actress esp when u live with parents like me & hubby.  Takkan kisah "sluar dalam" kita pun kita nak bilang mak, skit2 nak bilang bapak, duuhhhh puas hati jgn kawin nyah!!! Dok aje bawah ketiak Mak or Abah you

2.   "Setiap kali timbul masalah rumahtangga, always remember tis pepatah - Laut mana yang tak bergelora, bumi mana yg tak ditimpa hujan...."
My advice is, when one becomes the FIRE, satu lagik tu jgn ler dok kepala batu, beralah ler jadik WATER... kalau 2-2 FIRE, duuhhh... MAUTS ler jawapannya

3.   "Mana orang tahu apa yang berlaku dalam kelambu kita, cuma suami isteri saya yang faham duduk perkara, sedangkan orang lain ada yang memberi nasihat dan sesetengahnya mengapi-apikan lagi keadaan hingga suasana marah terus meluap...."
My advice is, bila betul2 nak mengadu nasib... find someone which u can really rely on.  Jgn carik orang yg actually ada hati ngan hubby/wife you or tell someone who cant wait to see u CERAI... bila u bilang dia, woorrrrr makin menjadi ler dia condemn and make the situation WORST!!! Sebab in their heart, yeahhhhh ada CHANCE sapu madu aku balik :)

4.   "Yang penting, kita suami isteri sama-sama menyelesaikan masalah rumahtangga..."
Up till today, i always remember wat my uncle always tell me... "Sendiri mahu ingat... Sendri buat, sendri mahu tanggung...."

5.   "Sebagai ketua keluarga, saya tidak nafikan di peringkat awal perkahwinan pelbagai masalah perlu ditangani......."
I tink tis is the part where couple hafta learn to adapt on changes where life have change from being solo, now u're together.  Macam lagu Dato S.M Salim.... dulu $1 makan sorang, skarang $1 makan berdua... ahaks!!!!  Tapi kalau gals still wanna keep the prinsip "Duit saya, duit saya and duit awak duit saya..." let me remind you tis, "Wak, wak... sendri mahu ingat lah sebab duit takkan dibawa mati nohhhhh..."  Kalau dikongsi $$$ tu untuk kesenangan u both and ur childrens, apa salahnya... Cik Abang pun jgn ler ambik advantage, mentang2 Ma'am bantu skit2.  Kalau rasa duit bulanan kurang, pi amik part-time job... remember, we live not only for today but also for tomorrow babe..................................

6.   "Punca utama masalah rumahtangga ialah ekonomi, terutama jika bernikah dalam usia muda dan kedudukan kewangan belum begitu kukuh...."
Now i remember why everytime older people always kept membebel to us , "Dah ready financially? Mentally? Physically?............." Ni ler sebabnya cos they care...

7.   "Diperingkat permulaan lah kita perlu berusaha meningkatkan taraf hidup terutama dari segi ekonomi  dan bekerja keras, lebih-lebih lagi apabila telah mempunyai  seorang cahayamata, daripada hidup berdua skarang dah bertiga....."
:: My auntie eva ask me to follow them go holiday but i declined cos i'm saving up for tis baby of mine. 
:: Then she said, "Alah, kan rezeki baby tu ada..."
:: Then i replied, "Memang rezeki baby tu ada, tapikan rezeki tu takkan datang bergolek kalau diri sendiri tak berusaha...."
:: Terus dia terdiam....
i'm really sorry i hafta reply her like that cos me, as the family Financial Planner needs to plan the economy of my family.  If ujung bulan tak cukup $$$ to buy foods/milk/pampers for my family, mana nak carik? Nak mintak my auntie ke? They also have their own financial problems, rite????

So, SeNdRi MaHu InGaT.........